Dear Husbands:

In a day and time when we (wives/mothers) are expected to keep up with an unattainable schedule for ourselves and our children, maintain our homes, be nurturing and loving, be your helpmate, be your friend, be your lover, be a positive role model for our children, help and support our aging parents, keep up friendships, stay on top of our own physical and mental health, work the same 40 hours a week that you work, do the best we can to maintain our self-esteem in the face of the media's idea of perfection, sleep, think and gather our thoughts, we are struggling.  We need help, we need support, we need a firm partner and we need a friend.  We need to know that it chips away at your self-esteem when we treat you like one of our children.  We need to know that it really isn't funny to you when we belittle you in front of our friends.  We need to know that you are desperate to hear us brag on you and lift you up for the hard work that you do too.  Remind us that we're beautiful to you. Remind us that you would take us over any bikini model even after we've had 3 kids. Tell us the sweet beautiful things that we need to hear and not just when we're in bed together.  Remember that a quick text saying, thank you for breakfast, I think you're beautiful or I'm just thinking about you means so much more than you know.   Remember and please remind us that there is no better stability in the world for our children than a mom and dad that love and support each other. Always fight for our marriage and when the new girl at work flirts with you, the high school classmate on facebook wants to send you a private message or the stranger at the motel bar wants to know if you're married, please respond as if we are right there by your side, respect us and love us when we are there in person and when we are not.