Ripping off a Band-Aid

When you have that cut and it won't stop bleeding and you band-aid it and band-aid it again and it finally stops bleeding and eventually you need to take the band-aid off and clean it up and start letting it heal.  You know it's going to bleed a little again and probably hurt but it has to be done.  I went through this process with my husband recently, we bandaged some bad wounds almost a year ago, it was very painful and we left a lot undone.  I had to pull the band aids off and do some cleaning up to heal the right way.   I absolutely hated doing this.  We are happy but those underlying things were still floating below the surface and they had to be addressed so we could heal.  I know that it was the right thing to do and will save us pain and issues in the future but I still struggle with it.  I feel like I forgave him and I shouldn't be bringing up issues once they have been forgiven, probably because I don't like someone to bring up my past issues, but I needed to be heard and clear some things up for my own sanity.  We're getting better and we're going to heal and be ok.