Be careful with the expectations

If my spouse is going to commit to an affair, in person or online, OBVIOUSLY it will be with someone 10 years younger, thinner and drop dead beautiful right? After all he's only trying to improve on the original right? Truth is you may have a hint of the reason but you truly don't know what your spouse is out there looking for.  As a woman my first thought is of course younger, size 5,  prettier, boobs that are still in the originally placed location and stay there without assistance.... but he may be looking for a good listener, someone to compliment him and build him up.   Your husband may in a relationship with a woman 25 years older. Your wife may be chatting online with a balding middle aged man that makes her laugh again.  What you  find when you reveal the "other" probably won't match your mental picture, not even close for me.  It may shock you, confuse you or really put a spin on your self esteem.  You have got to be prepared for anything before you start digging.