So you're not a computer genius?

Unfortunately neither am I.  I can buy and sell on Ebay. I can Facebook. I do bills and taxes and banking online.  If you can do that you can track down your spouse.  I recovered passwords to his social networking and email accounts and also went undercover and had an online affair with him.   Neither of these are for those with a weak stomach or quick explosive temper.   It's strictly about gathering evidence, presenting it, having discussions and moving on.  When I presented my evidence I never revealed that I was one of the online affairs and I don't ever plan to.   I can promise you that the good southern girls in my book club or recipe exchange would fall out of their chairs if they read the conversations that I had with my husband while undercover, well most of them..  I never considered telling him that I was one of his affairs and  I don't know what impact that would have on our relationship.  That undercover identity is also my insurance policy.  I love him, forgive him and will work just as hard as he is to keep our marriage moving forward but my trust will take longer to catch up.